First, my post was a little tongue-in-cheek. Someone else in a recent thread posted something else by some conservative that implied that women don't want sex. So I was making a joke about how that might be because the man who wrote it is not a worthy sexual partner.
Again, he's not saying this.
Second, this is a direct quote: "If most women wait until they are in the mood before making love with their husband, many women will be waiting a month or more until they next have sex."
Really? Because again, myself and most women I know would not like that.
He's talking about the realities of life. He's assuming sex isn't uncomfortable or distasteful to the people involved as a general rule. His working assumption, which I have to believe is true for most long term marriages, is that people don't walk around in a permanent state of lust. Sometimes both people are in the mood. Some days only one or the other is. Some days neither person is. Obviously, the tension occurs in the second scenario, not the first or the third.
Notice though, he doesn't say that MEN should do sexual things to their wife if they are not in the mood. How about a little un-reciprocated cunnilingus when your wife is horny but you are not up to a full on boner? You are too tired to get a full on boner? Well, belly up to the Viagra as its your husbandly duty. Didn't notice that in his article.
He also compares having sex when one is not interested to caring for a child, but men are autonomous beings who don't need cared for. He also compares it to a man not feeling like going to work that day. Hello? Don't most women work too?
Sex is an act of intimacy, lust, loving and relationship building. Frankly, if my husband wasn't really into it, I wouldn't WANT to have sex with him. What a mood killer. And really, joking aside, if your wife's libido is that low, consider why? Are you a good sexual partner? Is she flat exhausted from caring for very young kids and/or working? The biggest killer of lust is resentment, what kind of problems are you two having inter-personally that would make her feel like she didn't want to be intimate with you?
That said, every marriage is different. Maybe you have the kind of marriage where a woman trades childbearing/rearing and sex for money and security. Nothing wrong with that provided that both parties agree and knew what they were getting into when they married.
But what about a marriage where the woman is the breadwinner? What about a marriage where the husband knew going in that his wife wasn't into sex?
Don't misunderstand me, if you as a want to think of sex as the equivalent of giving your tired husband a back rub when you yourself are tired, just to be kind, that's totally cool. I can also see having issues but knowing that men sometimes feel personally rejected if they get turned down a lot and deciding that you don't want to reject him. But that's not really what he is saying here, is it? He is saying as a good wife your duty is to have sex even if you are not into it, or don't be surprised if your husband leaves you or cheats on you.